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A bad 'wound' heals, but a bad 'word' does not ;)
"Foul Language" video version =>
I strongly recommend this video => http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_57ZTxPRKHQ
Nowadays when you're with your friends or your daughter's/son's friends all you hear is sarcastic remarks and foul language and a lot of laughter after that. When you reprimand them for using such language, what do they say? "O come on! This is how everyone talks! " or "This is how I 'express' myself ", or "We don't mean it in a bad way, we're just joking around with each other !". Subhaan Allaah! Since when did that become a 'joke'? Since when did cussing become a part of a Muslim's vocabulary?!
Why should we STOP cursing? because guarding one's speech is so important that Muslims will be held accountable for everything they say: “Not a word does he (or she) utter but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it )” (Qur'an 50:18).
I agree that sometimes we swear/curse because we're angry but the real question is ,did the prophet used to do any of these things? NO! so then how did the Prophet (PBUH) behave?
Anas bin Malik said: "The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)..." (Bukhaari)
There are numerous hadiths regarding foul language and here are some of them ;
Ibn Masoud narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “A Muslim is not a person who slanders, curses, speaks obscene words or is abusive.”
Ibn Abi Hatim recorded that `A'ishah said, "Some Jews came to the Prophet and greeted him by saying, `As-Sam `Alayka, O Abul-Qasim.(Death be Upon you O father of Qasim)" ,the Prophet said `wa `Alaykum As-Sam (the same upon you).' I said to them, `wa `Alaykum As-Sam wa alla'na (death by upon you too and may Allah disgrace you).' The Prophet said,(O `A'ishah, Allah does not like rudeness and foul speech.) I said, `Didn't you hear them say, `As-Sam Alayka' He said,(Didn't you hear me answering them back by saying, `Wa `Alaykum (And the same upon you)'
Here is what Allah (SWT) said in his holy book about this ;
0 Best for the LAST, Stay away from people who speak such bad language. Because the more you hear it, the more desensitized one becomes to its evil, until a time comes when its not bad anymore.
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A bad 'wound' heals, but a bad 'word' does not ;)
"Foul Language" video version =>
I strongly recommend this video => http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_57ZTxPRKHQ
Nowadays when you're with your friends or your daughter's/son's friends all you hear is sarcastic remarks and foul language and a lot of laughter after that. When you reprimand them for using such language, what do they say? "O come on! This is how everyone talks! " or "This is how I 'express' myself ", or "We don't mean it in a bad way, we're just joking around with each other !". Subhaan Allaah! Since when did that become a 'joke'? Since when did cussing become a part of a Muslim's vocabulary?!
Why should we STOP cursing? because guarding one's speech is so important that Muslims will be held accountable for everything they say: “Not a word does he (or she) utter but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it )” (Qur'an 50:18).
I agree that sometimes we swear/curse because we're angry but the real question is ,did the prophet used to do any of these things? NO! so then how did the Prophet (PBUH) behave?
Anas bin Malik said: "The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)..." (Bukhaari)
And Abdullah bin 'Amr said: "The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) never used bad language neither a 'Faahish nor a Mutafaahish. He used to say 'The best amongst you are those who have the best manners and character.' (Bukhaari)
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "O 'Aaishah! Have you ever seen me speaking a bad and dirty language? (Remember that) the worst people in Allah's sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people desert or leave in order to save themselves from their dirty language or from their transgression." (Bukhaari)
“So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].”( 3:159 ).
When we are provoked and inclined to say something hurtful, let us bite the words off. Breathe deeply, praise Allah, seek refuge from Shaytan. Don’t say those mean words, don’t send that angry email. Because words persist. They root themselves in our brains and wait, ready to spring out in an argument years later.
Instead say as this sweet lady (May Allah bless her with Firdaus, ameen) did, whenever she was upset at anyone, she would say "May Allah Taala show you the light". she was asked to why she says that when she is angry at someone, and the sweet lady replied "when a person is angry their emotions are at a peak, at that time instead of cursing the person, if you make a duaa for their Hidayaah/guidance , then inshaAllah it will be a Win Win situation.
There are numerous hadiths regarding foul language and here are some of them ;
Ibn Masoud narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “A Muslim is not a person who slanders, curses, speaks obscene words or is abusive.”
Abdullah Bin Omar narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “A Muslim is a person whom all Muslims are safe from his tongue and hands.”
Mu’adh narrated that "The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) mentioned to him what brings him closer to Paradise and what makes him be farther from the Hellfire, and then he told him: “Shall I not inform you of what controls all that.” Mu’adh said: “Please tell me O! Prophet of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam)”. So the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) took his tongue (with his fingers) and told him: “Restraint this one.” Then Mu’adh said: “O! Prophet of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam), are we held accountable for what we say.”The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “How are you asking this question?” People are not thrown into the Hellfire on their faces or noses except due to the result of their tongues ”
Abud-Darda (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet 
said, "Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the Scale of the believer than good manners. Allah hates one who utters foul or coarse language'" '[At-Tirmidhi].
And as for cursing (i.e. la'ana) specifically, there are hadiths as well :
Cursing is smthn like '
May Allah disgrace you! " which is unfortunately said constantly by Arab's youth as a joke =(
Narrated Samurah Ibn Jundub (radhi allahu anhu), ‘Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu aliahi wa-sallam) said, ‘Do not curse one another, invoking curse of Allah or Wrath of Allah or the fire of Hell.’ [Abu Dawood, at-Tirmidhee]
Narrated Abu Darda (radhi allahu anhu), ‘Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu aliahi wa-sallam) said, ‘When a person curses (La’nah; to ask that something be deprived of Allah’s Mercy) somebody or something, the curse goes up to the heaven and the gates of the heaven are closed. Then it comes down to the earth and its gates are closed. Then it turns right and left, and if it does not find an entrance to go anywhere, it returns to the person or thing that was cursed, if he or it deserves to be cursed; otherwise, it returns to the person, who uttered it.’ [Abu Dawood] Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu aliahi wa-sallam) also warned, ‘Those who frequently resort to cursing would neither be accepted as witnesses nor as intercessors on the Day of Resurrection.’ [Saheeh Muslim]
‘A drunkard was brought to the Prophet (sallallahu aliahi wa-sallam). He (r) said, ‘Give him a beating.’ Then some beat him with their hands, some with their shoes, and some with (a folded) piece of cloth. When he left, someone said to him, ‘May Allah disgrace you!‘ The Prophet (sallallahu aliahi wa-sallam) said, ‘Do not help Shaytan overcome him by uttering such words.’ [Saheeh al-Bukharee]
‘Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu aliahi wa-sallam) said, ‘A true believer is not involved in taunting, or frequently cursing or in indecency or abusing.” [At-Tirmidhee]
said, "Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the Scale of the believer than good manners. Allah hates one who utters foul or coarse language'" '[At-Tirmidhi].
Cursing a believer is a great crime that a Muslim should never dare to commit. To illustrate the enormity of this crime, it is enough to mention the Hadeeth where the Prophet (PBUH) said: "Cursing a believer is like killing him.”
He should recall the prohibition of the Prophet (PBUH) in the Hadeeth where he said: “Do not curse one another invoking the curse of Allaah, the wrath of Allaah, or the fire of Hell.”
A few storied of the Sahaba regarding the matter ;
Narrated Sa'id ibn al-Musayyab: While the Prophet Mohammed (peace_be_upon_him) was sitting with some of his companions, a man reviled AbuBakr and insulted him. But AbuBakr remained silent. He insulted him twice, but AbuBakr controlled himself. He insulted him thrice and AbuBakr took revenge on him. Then the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) got up when AbuBakr took revenge. AbuBakr said: Were you angry with me, O prophet of allah ?
The prophet (peace_be_upon_him) replied: An angel came down from Heaven and he was rejecting what he had said to you. When you took revenge, a devil came down. I was not going to sit when the devil came down.
The prophet (peace_be_upon_him) replied: An angel came down from Heaven and he was rejecting what he had said to you. When you took revenge, a devil came down. I was not going to sit when the devil came down.
Ibn Abi Hatim recorded that `A'ishah said, "Some Jews came to the Prophet and greeted him by saying, `As-Sam `Alayka, O Abul-Qasim.(Death be Upon you O father of Qasim)" ,the Prophet said `wa `Alaykum As-Sam (the same upon you).' I said to them, `wa `Alaykum As-Sam wa alla'na (death by upon you too and may Allah disgrace you).' The Prophet said,(O `A'ishah, Allah does not like rudeness and foul speech.) I said, `Didn't you hear them say, `As-Sam Alayka' He said,(Didn't you hear me answering them back by saying, `Wa `Alaykum (And the same upon you)'
Here is what Allah (SWT) said in his holy book about this ;
O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers. [ 49:11 ]
Allah says, “Do not worship except Allah; and to parents do good and to relatives, orphans, and the needy. And speak to people good [words] and establish prayer and give zakah.”(Quran, Al-Baqarah 2:83).
The Quran says, “and speak to them words of appropriate kindness.” (Quran, An-Nisaa’ 4:8). “Appropriate kindness”, what an interesting phrase! The Arabic word is “ma’roofan”. It means speak the truth, but kindly, without arrogance or anger.
Similarly, Allah says, “O you who have believed, fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice.” (Quran, Al-Ahzab 33:70).
How to STOP this habit of mine then ?!
0 Individuals can try putting a rubber band around the wrist, and every time they curse, snap it.
0 Cut out the curse words and replace with silly words like Oh shoot! , What the bananas! or I don't give a banana's about or using sentences with the phrase "fill in the blank" or just saying the word "beep" instead. or What the French toast or *fudge* and *holy shrimp!*or "go to Jannah/Heaven"
or other such examples.
0 After cursing, stop and repeat the sentence without the curse word
0 Every time you curse, put a designated amount of money into a jar. At the end of each week, donate the money to charity.
0 Follow the prophet's ways of handling anger to calm your mind and quiet your thoughts, so that you do not speak before you think.
0 Use a thesaurus to find more creative words to express yourself.
0 Best for the LAST, Stay away from people who speak such bad language. Because the more you hear it, the more desensitized one becomes to its evil, until a time comes when its not bad anymore.
I would like to take a moment and thank Allah (SWT) for the success that I've accomplished so far in my videos and thank my fans who supported me by sharing my videos and those who supported me at the beginning as well as those who until this very moment give me their feedback for almost all my videos/articles , Jazakom Allah khair =D
Don't forget to subscribe to my channel on YouTube and Share ..Share AND Share this article/video and to contact me on my e-mail address thegoldengirl157@gmail.com with your feedback or ideas for the next video inshAllah ;)
Jazakom Alah khair =D
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